The rave that consumed social media over the podcast of 10k was a volcanic one.
Do I like podcasts? I do at times. As a matter of fact, I do. Especially these new styles, where video recordings of the characters making the podcasts are being taken live.
Now, the question that was trending al through last week was, should I send her the 10k? Or would she look down on it?
I have a friend who gave his girlfriend, the sum of N200,000. To him, he has the money, so why should he not give her?
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Truth is, this is Nigeria. One of the poorest countries in the world. Why would anyone look down on any amount?
The sad fact is that these are females who feel entitled to their man’s money. If I talk about females you’d think this is man and wife. No, this isn’t. This is about lovers.
Now, this is Africa, where traditionally the men are the breadwinners. But in recent times, the women have been encouraged to also take up jobs to support the man, and in cases of death, there won’t be a catastrophe in the family.
But for ladies to come out and make emphatic statements about how much a guy should give. Then, these ladies are part of their problem.
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One of the reasons why there are a lot of broken homes, broken relationships is due to social media, that causes comparison, creates a standard.
Now, when men are ‘money-shamed’ this way. It makes a lot of them decide to get the money at all means (including fraudulent means), and then when they do acquire this money, women become objects to them.
I witnessed a man, probably in his late 50s or early sixties, calling a woman “pussy”. I mean he was boldly calling her “pussy, come here”. It was crazy, though he said it in the Ijaw language. But it was crazy.
In a society ravaged by poverty like ours in Nigeria. The laser focus on money over any other thing including morals is what you get. But this phase will pass.
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As a lady, learn to attach value to humans and not money. Money is an illusion. Qualifying and classifying men based on their financial value is delusional.
As a young man, who is ‘money-shamed’, you move onto the next. You don’t think low of yourself cos of anyone. As a matter of fact you give it to those who would appreciate it!
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The point I’d like to relay here as a comment would be that as much as those young ladies felt a sense of entitlement to another man’s hard earned money, there are in fact women who that 10k wouldn’t do anything for but they would appreciate same more than these young ladies who clearly are in need of it but are in desperate need to identify with a certain societal class called “rich”. Wealth is created and collated in the mind, and those ladies clearly don’t have the rich woman mentality. I say this because the rich are only entitled to their own money, not the money from others. Hard work also teaches value for money. If they worked really hard for what they have, they’ll understand that 10k isn’t for beggars. People work out 10k in a day from hairdressing and are able to utilize it for feeding and other miscellaneous. I once saved for a cause and accomplished it by saving 10k every three days . Hard work teaches gratitude and value.
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I had to read and re-read again.
First off, I like that you looked at it from the 2 sides.
The fact that you stated that (paraphrased), “there are in fact women whom despite being above 10k, they would still value it.” underlines it all.
The need to identify with that class, is what has brought about something even more worse than tribalism and racism.
That is “CLASSISM”.
Thank you much for this, clearly a lot of people don’t understand the wealth mentality!
Really sweet this is coming from a lady!
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