SPARE THE CHILD AND LOSE 21K?

Hannah Ejimofor

My pants down and buttocks bare;
Laid on the punishment table.
Regretting my actions of the past hours.
Recollecting marks that I earned in this position.
And here I am again;
Like meat on the butcher’s table, ready to be cut in pieces with the whip.

First stroke and I didn’t flinch;
Saw daddy’s energy in the second, maybe I really pissed him off.
Wham! My ass breathing pain in and out.
I could see my siblings laughing from the other corner.
Mother preparing a consoling speech in her mind for me.
I already hate whoever told Dad to keep saying “Spare the rod and spoil the child”.

~ Siruis

So, today everyone is talking about the child that came out with a poor grade and was beaten (few slaps) by his dad on Twitter. I will like to dissect the issue from both the dad’s side and the boy’s side; and finally we can draw our conclusion without judging anyone.

I can still remember back then when I was about entering a senior class, I was supposed to choose a career path. I wanted to be a lawyer, argue in court and win cases. It looked so sweet being a public figure and all. Then we got a visit from one of my aunties; while we were discussing, she told my parents about ‘Nursing’ and how nurses made good cash outside the country.

The next week in school, I saw myself writing down science courses. I felt great because it made my parents happy, I was going to be a nurse. I quit arguing with people during conversations, it was of no use after all. Then I tried loving biology, but it was difficult; so many scientific names, so I failed and kept failing, dad was pissed!

Most times, children needs to be heard; to be understood and finally to be guided. But what most parents do is: choose, enforce, dictate and sponsor. Maybe, what that child actually needed was to be a musician, to go into music and do songs. But his dad wanted him to be a scholar, to study.

No! I’m not against education, neither am I against parental guidance. But I think we should listen to the kids, try to hear them out, rather than pushing them hard. The dad, on the other hand, wasn’t wrong in any way by scolding his son. He spent the money after all; and I believe, he wants the best for the child. But, what if the best he wants; isn’t the best the child needs? What if the child was only trying to let the dad see that this path I’m treading, isn’t what I need?

A little bit of understanding would have saved the wasted millions.

Don’t choose their career!

Observe them, listen to them and then guide them without creating pressure on them.

8 Replies to “SPARE THE CHILD AND LOSE 21K?”

  1. Yes! We as children have memories of where we were coerced into doing something we dont love or dropping something we love. But as future parents I hope we change the narrative. And that poem before the write up is lit.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I’m glad for the poem. All credits goes to you, Sir!

      Its really difficult as a parent, watching your child go another path instead of the one you had in mind is really difficult.

      Like

  2. Amazing write up! Permit me to use the word ‘dialogue’. Dialogue should be an essential tool between parents and their wards.
    E.g. Ward: daddy I want to study microbiology
    Dad: No darling, I’d rather you studied Nursing, you can study microbiology at master’s level.

    Then they come to a consensus and agreement. Rather than enforcing your opinion on your ward, make them see reasons with you; why you want them to study a particular course.

    After all, we all have our human rights; children inclusive.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. What causes it most times, is lack of funds. So parents try to manage the little they have. With the hope that in the next four or five years, their kids would have had a job.

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s