Almost every child that becomes a teenager knows that he or she would leave the parents’ house someday. Only that while some shy away from the thought, some others just can’t wait to leave their parents’ house.
The reasons why ‘adults’ choose to leave their parents’ house are usually various. Stemming from abuse and scornful remarks about anything, to no privacy, to loss of respect on the part of their younger ones.
There are those who actually want to leave because they feel the utmost desire to be independent and feel they will never achieve such independence staying in their parent’s house.
Moving out of parent’s house is not a bad idea, although I won’t lie that I admire the unity expressed in Asian families living together in one house.
It is a bold move, and I would not like to say that there is an age for leaving the house of one’s parents. My dad told me he left his parent’s house at the age of 17. But that’s him and that was in the 60s or 70s.
In this 21st century, there are a lot of factors to consider before one can think of moving out of one’s parent’s house, but I will be listing just three:
Many times, people overlook this factor. But what any one should ask him or herself before leaving is this sincere question, “Why am I leaving?”.
People leave for a range of reasons, from independence, to moving in with a partner, to searching for greener pastures. Some just leave because its time to ‘leave the nest’.
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Having a reason for leaving helps to keep one in track, even in times when one seem to have doubts or regrets about leaving.
Thinking about this, one may say I didn’t need to mention this one, but it has to be here. One advantage of leaving in your parent’s house is that your accommodation and feeding expense is covered.
Leaving on your own means that you get to foot your bills, utilities, feeding, groceries, toiletries, etc. Sometimes, it hits you rocky, and leaves you unpleasant.
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So as a matter of utmost importance, one must ensure that you do have a good amount of money before deciding to move out. If not so, I will advise you rather tuck yourself in there, endure and save for a while.
3. EMOTIONAL STRENGTH
When a child decides to leave the parent’s house, it is not only the child(or adult) that is bothered, the parents too get bothered too.
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The family which has always served as an emotional pillar and succor would no more be there. Especially if one is moving to a new city with less friends.
The moments that one does share with family, the good and bad days that you converse with your parents about and the moral support is cut off, once you move out of their place.
Because they cannot readily give you the succor they did give you. Also, in times of ill health, you might not get any special care as you used to get before.
Many times, the females especially, get into wrong relationships because this period they do have this space in their lives, that gets obvious even to the male folks, leading to bad relationships and bad break ups.
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Overall, moving out is a good thing as it is a step not just to independence, but its very fundamental step in adulthood. As one day, one would be required to move out and make your own family.
But then, staying in your parent’s place is not a bad thing if its comfortable for you. There is no rulebook to it all.
So if you can and love to, stay in your parent’s house. But if you don’t want to, by all means, leave. But ensure you do have these 3 factors stated above before you attempt to move.