Aunty you no go marry? You don dey old oo

Most women are pressured by the society into marriage, like marriage is the apex of the feminine life. This is fundamentally wrong and has pushed countless women into wrong marriages and even worse, limited their mindset to never wanting more of out life, their lives! Just waiting to end up with a man she can call her husband, have babies for him, and her mother is happy – her daughter is now a woman. This has been the mindset of the average and regular Nigerian woman. A traditional belief we have held on to, for centuries and refused to let go, sadly so.

Times are changing and templates of the past that defined the female gender has changed too. The world is becoming too complex by the day to be left for males alone to handle; yet sadly, most women prefer to champions at home, to be in the kitchen and gaining grounds in the other room than to be in boardrooms and offices chasing their careers in different lines.
You can’t blame them all for it anyways, as the society they live in has successfully instilled in them, the confidence to be good housewives and be perfectly proud of it, a great achievement better than academic degrees, honors and awards at jobs — Oh, how we’ve fallen!

There’s so much transformation good women can do when given the opportunity. Like a glimpse of light in the dark, bit by bit, rightly so, the tide is changing. The playing ground is becoming level, giving nearly equal opportunities to both male and female. Not particularly even and equal though, however, it is a start to something great if we hold on to the fast rising trend of letting women rush into marriage rather than sitting at home all their lives.

Though, they say it is a man’s world, and this is particularly true, but women are rising through the ranks, breaking the status quo, altering systems in their favour. Weaker vessels? No, I don’t think so. I believe women are exceptional.

Though we’re not there yet, I think the thriving spirit of the female gender can cause a revolution all around the world that will propel even more notable achievements cutting across all facets of the world’s economy. I believe women are assets, rare gems not to be caged in a box to be utterly dependent on males who particularly thrive on that, validating their obnoxious claims that women are weaker vessels.

All around the world, women have proven themselves as equal to the task, dauntless in the face of challenges and hardship, never giving up and aiming for success to say a few. Particularly in Nigeria, women stand out in all aspects of our economy, ranging from corporate businesses, to politics, entertainment, fashion and the likes.

Taking a look at few:

Folurunsho Alakija

Folorunsho alakija is a Nigerian billionaire businesswoman with a passion for excellence, who seeing the much a woman can be, worked tirelessly to prominence. Starting off as a banker, she saw the need to reach for more which she did with so much doggedness, establishing her fashion company Supreme Stiches which was later known as Rose of Sharon House of Fashion. With an eye for business, she delved into oil exploration with her company Famfa Limited. With so much intimidation from the Nigerian government after striking oil, she fought tirelessly in court against the government and she won. Folorunsho has a foundation called the Rose of Sharon Foundation that helps widows and orphans through scholarships and business grants.


Ibikun Awosika

Always been a go-getter, though she studied Chemistry at the university, took elective accounting courses too which prompted her to run several programs at the Lagos business school. She floated her first company, Quebees Limited – a furniture manufacturing company which is now known as SOKOA Chair Centre Limited; this she did with no initial capital, just with meticulous planning and her vision, currently her company hits a revenue of billions of naira.

Due to her diligence and topnotch work etiquette, with a strive for excellence she was appointed Group Chairperson, Firstbank Nigeria, after spending several years with the company. The first female to ever occupy such prestigious position. She is currently on the board of so many companies including – Cadbury Nigeria plc, Digital Jewel Limited, IESE International Advisory Board (A graduate business school of the University of Navarra Barcelona, Spain)

She is the host of the popular TV programme, BUSINESS – HIS WAY, where she teaches the business community ethical business principles based on the Word of God, founder of Christian Missionary Fund, a non-governmental body dedicated to raising support for Christian missionaries across the country, and is a Pastor at the Fountain of Life Church.


Kafayat Shafau-Ameh

Kaffy, though she studied data processing at the university coupled with a dream to become an aeronautical engineer, she refused to be limited and stereotyped. In 2006 she went on achieving a Guinness world Record feat for the “Longest Dance Party” after they danced for 55hours and 40minutes.
She’s currently a Dance fitness instructor at the various dance competitions “9jaDance Burnout” and “Ijoda9ja Dance Burnout.”

Also a judge and instructor at the TV programs – Malta Guinness Street Dance, Project Fame West Africa, and Dance with Peter. With several awards to her name, kaffy as she’s commonly known has won:

Special Recognition Award at the 2018 Headies Award. Best Choreographer of the Year at the 2015 the Beatz AwardsBest Female Dancer of the Year at the 2014 African Muzik Magazine Awards

Nominated as Best Performing Art at the 2013 Creative Industry Awards


Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Switching between careers at a young age, Chimamanda left medicine and pharmacy to study communications and political science. Faced by racism and discrimination at some point in her life, she began her journey to prominence, writing her novel – Americanah, which depicts the struggle and difficulties she went through as a black in a white land. Spending most of her youthful age overseas, she received so many awards for academic excellence; despite the disturbing rate of racism even at the time, her focus remained and her resolve for gold, resolute.

In 2002, she won the BBC short story award with her story “That harmattan morning”. In 2003, her new story “The American Embassy” won two awards and in that same year she published her first novel “Purple Hibiscus”, and for the past decade, she has been nominated and has won numerous awards due to her literary prowess shown in her several articles and novels she has published – Half of a yellow sun, You in America, The thing around your neck. With all her publications turning out to be bestsellers.

It is therefore clear with no doubt that women, are capable of more than we give them credit for. More than we give opportunities to do. I believe with women given equal opportunities as men in every and all parts of the world, we’d have ourselves a better society to live in.

Yubedee Pyamene Anokari, is a contributor on the blog, an amazing content writer and entrepreneur. Currently a student of environmental studies at the University of Port Harcourt, an SDG advocate, passionate about personal growth and development.


  1. I’m so happy that someone has spoken up for us women honestly. It’s sad that the only thing most Nigerians think the female gender is good for is marriage. My position on marriage will never change. It is not a life goal but when I say such things, I see all my aunties begging me to marry oo. It’s annoying and such a shallow mindset. I’m glad someone is writing about this stuff. The injustice against women will be hard to curb but I believe that it is not impossible. Thank you for your post. It is inspiring indeed.

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    1. As much as I respect your wish not to mention the name of the said university. I will be open to a more detailed story, if you so desire.

      I have known of situations where lecturers have intently made sure no student attain distinction, maybe because none of them ever attained distinction. But I have never known of any that was done because of gender.

      I will be open to a more detailed article on this, of course, if you so desire.
      My email is

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